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According to Psychology Today, ” Microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal, and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or unintentional, which communicate hostile, derogatory, or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their marginalized group membership.”
I am so tired of blocking the microaggressions of people in everyday life. The damn weeds that sully the Earth. The white chicks that go all “Hey Girlfriend!” when they speak to me to the gay dude who uses the stereotype of the Stong Black Woman to justify why I don’t need help or a man. I am tired of not being allowed to be my flawed, intelligent, funny, outgoing, Black Ass Self! I am so busy editing in order to move through life with as few scrapes and bruises to my ego as possible that I am not living my best life and I am tired of it.
Sad, but the bravest thing I did this year was block a white lady at work from touching my braids. All of my life I have been taught to make white people feel comfortable at the expense of my happiness. I often walk away from these encounters feeling sullen. Sometimes I just want to retreat from this fake ass land of kumbaya and find a place where there’s only Black people and I don’t have to contend with the intersectionality of being a Black in America.
To gain your power back from the grips of white supremacy what do you do when the others are microaggressively tearing you down under the guise of trying to be friendly?
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